Friday, 4 September 2015

Reclaiming Life Offline..

Lately I've noticed I'm spending less and less time online.  While I still enjoying popping into my favourite blogs and websites and reading articles that inspire and invigorate my soul, I'm just not resonating with social media and the curated online world the way I once did.  

Last month, I took a week off social media and at the end of the week when I returned, while I enjoyed catching up with my friends, I kind of wished I taken a little longer away. I realised the time I was wasting, just browsing social media for no reason.  I noticed a lightness in my whole being, when I wasn't thinking about what I was posting next, who I needed to reply to, what emails I hadn't returned.  But most of all, I just adored really connecting with my own life again.  Noticing, finding an awareness that I didn't have when my head was down looking at a device.  Since then, I've deleted Facebook and Bloglovin off my phone and I've stopped putting pressure on myself to create online content for the sake of it.  But most of all, I've started really living my own life, instead of comparing myself to others online and without thinking about how I could capture each moment, or turn it into a blog post (which I'm sure a part of me has done almost every day for the past seven years).

With all the time I've reclaimed by turning my phone off and putting my lap top away, I've found the freedom to spend more time outside, time playing, gardening, noticing and teaching my little dirt girl.  I've found time to learn new skills, particularly experimenting with natural dyeing, something I've been longing to reconnect with since I studying it at University. And I've found that words are so much more rich, real and beautiful when they come from a real page. I've been journaling so much more and I've been slowly devouring a stack of wonderful books and magazines I've been collecting over the past twelve months.  

For so long I thought if I wasn't online, I was missing out.  I thought if I wasn't sharing, people might forget who I was and all those wonderful connections and friendships I'd made over the years would disappear.  Really, the only person who was putting pressure on me to be 'online' was myself.  But it's become so obvious to me now that like everything, this world, the 'online world' is just a fleeting moment in time, one that could all so easily disappear, it seems with a click of a button.  So while I love writing, sharing and being a part of this world, I'm realising now, how important it is to put more of my love, time and energy into the offline world, into my local community, my home and my own personal growth and well being.  

How are you feeling about the online world at the moment?
I've love to hear about how you find a balance between online and offline.

Much Love & Light
xxx

24 comments:

  1. I feel much the same as you Sophie! I balance it by blogging/posting only when I feel called to and trusting the right people for me will read/connect; and by regularly logging out of social media. I think it's so important to be offline and online mindfully. Easy to get distracted by social media though!! Great post. Elisa xx

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    1. Thanks so much Elisa. Yes I'm realising this more and more. Over the years I think I've let the pressure of blogging get to me. I think you're so right, trusting the right people will find you is so important. Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by.
      Sophie x

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  2. I feel just like you. I'm off FB right now and have deleted Insagram from my phone (I deleted Bloglovin from my phone awhile ago, because I found it so hard to comment and never did!). I'm in a conundrum about it all, balancing connection with comparison, but anchoring back into my 'why' has helped. Xxx

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    1. Oh it's been so wonderful to read this Bec! I'm so glad I'm not the only one feeling it! Love your work and all that you do. Yes indeed, it's the why that's the most important. Big love xx

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  3. Inspiring Sophie. I definitely need to step away from social media every now and then. .... I've been thinking i need to go back to screen free weekends soon. The regular two days away from screens was a good way to ground my mind at the end of each week. x

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    1. I love the idea of screen free weekends Tricia! That's a great idea. Thank you for inspiring me to really think about the online/offline balance. It's so important and quite life changing. xx

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  4. I know what you are saying Sophie, I must admit, it's the first thing I do in the morning - check facebook, twitter and instagram to see what's been happening overnight. Totally not necessary. If I didn't need them for my book blog posts, I would certainly delete off of my phone as I must spend hours on there. Must stop. x

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    1. Yeah, it's so easy to feel like you're missing out isn't it Ginny. I feel like that a lot. It's funny though, we don't think about what we are missing out in our own lives instead. Hmmm lots of food for thought. xx

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  5. So get what you're saying Sophie. For me the online world is an extra, not essential to my daily contentment and fulfillment. Find what works for you. Love C.

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    1. Oh I love that Cara, that's a wonderful way of looking at the online world x

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  6. So interesting Sophie...do you know I stayed away from Instagram for years and years because I just knew that once I started I would find it addictive. But, of course eventually I gave in to temptation. Now, I love it and predictably I am addicted. Parts of the online world I love and there are people I would never have connected with if I wasn't online, like you! Oh the dilemma x PS Trying again :)

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    1. Yes yes Jane! It is a dilemma isn't it. I think I'm realising it comes down to why. I think in the past sometimes I've fallen into the trap of writing for others, now I really just want to write for myself, at my own pace. And yes indeed, I love that I've been able to connect with people as wonderful as you too! Big love xxx

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  7. It's a conundrum that faces us all. Yes to connecting to like minded, inspiring souls but no to addiction, comparisons and disconnect. Whenever I consider this issue the first word that pops into my head is balance. I hope to one day get this balance as right as is best for me. With grace and gentleness. Much love, grace and gentleness to you too as you strive for what is best for you.

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    1. Oh Joanne, thank you for your comment. It's just perfect. Yes it is all about balance, it really is. Love your words. Grace and gentleness, how perfect. xx

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  8. I find it really hard to make time for both online connecting and offline doing--but there are things I value in both. Like-minded souls are not so easily come by in my offline world. It means I do less than I'd probably like in both worlds, and I listen to myself to know when I need more of one and less of the other. It's a dance, I guess.

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    1. Oh yes Rita, you're so right. Those souls are hard to come by and I value that connection so much. Yes indeed, it's a dance, a beautiful way to put it. xx

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  9. I blog for connection, not comparison. Have made some lovely friends along the way, some I've even been lucky to enough to meet in person around the world and they are now some of my very best friends. I don't care about numbers; I want to share and inspire and be inspired by others of like mind. I've been on Instagram for a couple of years now and it has opened up this country of Kuwait to me in a way I didn't know before and I've been here 20 years. It's the social media of choice here and I've made so many very good friends and made so many connections through it. I don't do Facebook and though friends and family think I should, I don't want to and am not going to give in to peer pressure. I know my limits. I blog as I wish, when I can. When I travel, I do not take a laptop with me so do not blog during that time. Instagram is easy to post to so I do that daily. But Lord help this selfie generation who feel they need to be connected 24/7 and can't even put their phones down when they are in the car. That to me is a sickness and I will never, ever be like that. I truly can take it or leave it, but I choose to use it for good in a healthy, responsible way.

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    1. So wonderful to read this Tammy! Yes it's all about work works for you. I think blogging in particular has changed so much in recent years, it's cause many of us to reassess how and why we do it. I love that connection too. That's really what it's all about xx

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  10. Taking time away from the internet is a wonderful thing. This is the first time I've opened up my blog reader in I can't even remember how long - I've been too busy moving house and staring at my new mountain view to have made a priority of catching up on blogs. It's nice to be back online, but it's also nice to have time away - both seem to give us a better appreciation of the other.

    Katie @ Katie Writes Stuff

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    1. Oh Katie that's so perfect.. Both seem to give us a better appreciation of the other. I really love that. Thank you xx

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  11. I used to be so attached to the online world, and to an extent I still am, but I can go for days on end without opening my laptop now, and it is a breath of fresh air to be like this. I can't quite say the same for my phone, Instagram is the thing that sucks me in... but I totally get what you're saying. I simply can't keep up with the blogging world like I once did and I'm fine with that.

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    1. Yes, that's so true Jac, I feel like I've got to make peace with the changing face of things like blogging, like you have. I think I'll feel that same sense of relief when I do. Thank you so much for sharing xx

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  12. I took a fortnight away from Instagram earlier in the year as I didn't like the amount of time I was spending on it. I would have also taken a holiday from Facebook and other social media sights, except I don't have to as I've never gotten attached to them. I check into Facebook once a day to monitor the page I run for our farm, or more so if I am advertising livestock on there. But Instagram is a social media platform I really enjoy and I started spending too much time on there. I too felt like I was missing out on something if I wasn't checking it frequently.
    After my fortnight break I was completely unattached to Instagram - and have remained that way. I probably have hop on there an average of twice or three times a day. Social media and mobile devices seem to be things a lot of people get addicted to quickly so I've always tried to be very aware of my usage.
    It's good to be inspired by others online, I love the online world and I very much enjoy Instagram. The internet enables us to reach out to other like minded people that we previously wouldn't have been able to engage with. But it's also good to live in the real world, or have enough time to put into practice some of those things I was inspired about online :-)

    Sarah

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    1. See indeed Sarah, you've so got it right. It's really all about balance, knowing where to draw that line for yourself and not feeling like you need to be a certain way. I think that time offline is really great. I'm thinking of doing it for a week every few months. I love the freedom it brings. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. xx

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Thank you for stopping by! ~ I just love receiving your comments! I'll be sure to pop by your place too. Much love ~ Sophie x