Thursday, 11 September 2014

Balance..

Amidst a quiet moment of morning yoga, I was thinking about the heartwarming conversation shared on my post on Tuesday.  Each comment resonated so deeply with me and I couldn't help but notice a common thread, one of finding balance. It reminded me of the journey I've taken over the past two years and I realised that balance has been something I've been spending time consciously contemplating and writing about.  

Life balance truly is a journey and with each new day, a shift in balance is required. This is something, since becoming a mother, I'm become more and more aware of. As we walked today, I noticed an elderly lady weeding her garden, in almost the same spot she was the previous day and the day before that. I couldn't help but wonder why she would keep weeding everyday, after all the weeds would still be there if she let them go for a little while and turned her attention elsewhere. I realised, as I kept walking that the practice of finding balance is perhaps like, weeding the garden. It never really ends and once you have this awareness, you realise that it's perfectly ok.  I think I was trying to find that life balance and just be done with it, like finding a solution to a problem. But life is constantly changing and on the journey you consciously shift that balance, to keep moving, tending to the weeds, helping the good things to grow.   

And some days it's not easy, things get overwhelming, just as I felt the other day with blogging. After reading your comments, I realised that there are always opportunities to find balance, to shift your consciousness and change perspective, even in just a few minutes. So here's a list I've made for myself as a reminder, as I focus on cultivating balance in my life.  
Move Your Body- For me walking, yoga and getting into the garden always help to shake things up and leave me with a fresh and more centered perspective.   

Turn Inward - A few slow breaths and if time allows a short meditation or moment of stillness, allows for a re-connection within.  When life's busy and things feel out of control, finding that moment with my breath has proven to be a really powerful tool.  

Talk it Out - It can feel so good to get something off your chest, just to talk it out with someone. I'm an over thinker and so often I'm make things out in my head to be so much worse than they really are.  My mum is always my go to, when I just need let it all go.  And after a few minutes of  babbling and sometimes a good cry, I always feel so much better. 

Go Outside - One of my favourites and a way I always cheer Tallow up, when we are both feeling a little unbalanced.  Take off your shoes, ground yourself and feel the connection you have with everything around you. Pull a few weeds, watch the butterflies, sit on the grass and just soak up the goodness.  

Reflect -  Grab your journal, a blank piece of paper or a new blog post and just write.  Sometimes I find long hand more soothing, but typing can be really effective too. After I wrote Tuesday's post, I felt an instant sense of relief, and a really strong connection to my blog.  Taking the time to reflect and process all those thoughts really allowed me to shift my perspective and find the plan I was searching for. 

Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude - Perhaps the most important on my list and something I'm working on everyday.  Practicing mindfulness and gratitude really is life changing.  I have experienced it first hand.  Journaling is a wonderful way to begin cultivating this practice as is taking time to create earth offerings, writing letters or doing any of the above.  I'm noticing that living more mindfully is having a profound impact on my life.  

I love that the act of blogging, is such a reflective process, a way to release and send those random thoughts that so often swirl around in your head, out into the world where they can connect with others and often gain new perspective.  It's been a wonderful week of insight for me as I redefine why it is I love to sit down and connect in this way, and how I can make time and find the balance to do what brings me joy.  I look forward to sharing my plan (which includes rethinking the way I use social media and really getting in touch with what I love about blogging) with you soon.  

Much Love to you on your journey for balance. 
 Keep weeding that garden & enjoy the sunshine!
xxx

PS. I must be turning into a bit of a green thumb with all these gardening metaphors.
PPS. For a fabulous insight into 'fitting it all in', please stop by and read Maxabella's three part blog post. It's so good! Love your work Bron! Thanks to the lovely Trudie & Nicole for reminding me to re-read it! I've been back three times to take notes. 

13 comments:

  1. I'm glad you're feeling better and have had some revelations. Since meeting Bron at ProBlogger and listening to her speak, the one thing I've worked on is the "fitting it all in". For me it's been an eye opener on how I was using and spending my time. Bron.'s insights really are useful for everyday life not just blogging. I'm sure you'll have no problem in defining a new way for you that works. Big love to you mumma. X

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    1. Awww thanks sweet lady! Yes indeed, I love how through this whole process, I've actually refined my whole way of living. It's amazing what can happened when you really focus on what you love, which for me is connecting with gorgeous people like you. xxx

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  2. Thank you for this post. I'm 16 weeks pregnant and have a hard time finding balance. This was just what I needed to read!

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    1. Big congratulations and warmest hugs lovely! How exciting! I hope my little list will be of some help and comfort. My best advice is be kind to yourself and enjoy every moment. xxx

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  3. Sometimes, you write the most timely posts. I'm saving this one, because the next few months are about to get very, very busy, and I know I'll need to remember how to balance. Thank you.

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    1. Oh thank you Katie, I'm so glad this resonated with you. Wishing you all the best in the next few months and I have a letter coming your way very soon xxx

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  4. Lovely post Sophie! I think another thing to add is that nothing is forever - some of these parenting days are soooooooo long and now I look at my kids, especially my eleven year old (!), and think where did that time go?!

    PS Am hosting a giveaway this week, I'd like to invite you and your readers to come and join in for your chance to win a copy of Stanley and the Hot Air Balloon, a beautiful children's book about a cheeky crochet rabbit - patterns included so you can make your own! It's been created by my sister Kate of the Greedy for Colour blog, come on over and say hi!

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    1. Oh yes indeed Lucy! That's such a wonderful point to add! Everything changes so quickly, it really is about living in the moment. xxx
      Oh and I sure will pop by and enter, looks just gorgeous!

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  5. Oh balance...I wonder if I will ever actually achieve it? In the meantime going outside and moving my body are two things that never fail to sooth the tension. In fact, I would be lost without these two things in my life! Have a lovely weekend Sophie x

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    1. Oh yes indeed I hear you Jane. I think I come close in some moments, when my hands are in the earth or I'm breathing in Spring's beautiful. And it's those moments that bring me such joy. Have a beautiful week xxx

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  6. Thanks Sophie. I don't think any of us have the answer to fitting it 'all' in, but we can definitely make time for the things we love. I think our expectations of what we can achieve in the time we have for things often needs to shift in order for us to find true satisfaction. For me, it's all about being gentle with myself. I'm a striver, but I don't have to be my 'best' all the time. x

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    1. Oh thanks so much Bron! What a beautiful and powerful comment. Every word resonates. I'm a striver too, I think I have always been and you're so right, it's about expectations and doing what you love rather than what you feel like you 'have to' do. I so appreciate your thoughts lovely lady. You left me a comment nearly two years ago on a post that meant a great deal to me and I think of it often. Thank you for your care and support and here's to connecting and bringing comments back! xxx

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  7. Ha, my really long comment just got deleted! Dammit. To sum up: I can relate to ever single thing you said. I'm really struggling to keep up with my blog, especially as blogging also means instagramming, face booking, tweeting, pinteresting etc.. It's so hard!x

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Thank you for stopping by! ~ I just love receiving your comments! I'll be sure to pop by your place too. Much love ~ Sophie x